15 Best Things about Being Single

Having been in a relationship for twenty years – my whole adult life – it felt a little strange to be single at first.  But nearly two years since our separation, I am incredibly happy to be single so I have written a short list of the best things about being single.   That’s not to say that being single is better than being married – obviously there are good and bad bits of both – but this is my list of why I’m happily single:

Shopping – I’m in charge of the food shopping which means that I don’t to have think about what he might like for dinner each day; I can have what I like, when I like.

The Bed – no having to share it with a snorer who uses more than his fair share.  It is all mine and I can choose what side to sleep on and change every night if I want to.  Or just sleep in the middle of the bed and have lots of space.

Bedroom Activities – being able to do whatever I like in bed without any complaints.  Read until late with the light on.  Eat chocolate biscuits.  Sing to the radio.  Have a dance.   Whatever takes my fancy.

Cleaning – no more cleaning stubble out of the sink (or even worse – the bath tub) or urine splashes behind the toilet.  Less time cleaning leaves more time for fun activities.

Children – having a better relationship with my children since becoming a single mum, probably because I am more relaxed and happier.

Christmas – no more having to think of Christmas presents for his family, wrap them or buy them.  More time and money for my family.

Television – being able to watch the programmes and films that I enjoy without anyone complaining or talking throughout it.

Friends – chatting to friends on the phone in the lounge rather than having to go to another room for some privacy.

Peace – once the children are all in bed, the peace and quiet is amazing and very therapeutic.  Something that wasn’t possible when living with someone else.

Money – total control of the budget with no surprises when I check the bank balance and realise that there’s not as much in there as I thought.  Now I know exactly what is there and how much I can spend each month on me and the kids.

Haircuts – choosing what hairstyle I like rather than wondering if he will like it.  I can also spend more than £10 on a haircut without listening to a rant about how much of a rip off women’s haircuts are.

Shaving – not caring if I haven’t shaved my legs for a few days (or weeks), especially in the Winter as nobody will see them under trousers.

Wardrobe – having the full wardrobe for all my clothes.  With so much space, I may need a few more outfits.

Toiletries – a bathroom full of only pink, girly, smelly, lush stuff in the bathroom.

Holidays – being able to book a holiday where I like and when I like without needing to check his views or his work shifts.

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10 Comments on 15 Best Things about Being Single

  1. jenna
    April 25, 2015 at 5:30 pm (2 years ago)

    I’m so happy you didn’t let being a single mom overwhelm You. You found the positives!!! That is beautiful ♡♡♡
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  2. You Baby Me Mummy
    March 14, 2015 at 5:59 pm (2 years ago)

    You put up a good case. I have always been in a couple, so I don’t think I would cope. Thanks for linking up to #TheList x
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  3. Francesca Govier
    February 6, 2015 at 9:54 pm (2 years ago)

    I love this list! I became a single parent shortly after my daughter was born and I love it! At first I thought I would miss all the relationship things but I don’t. I like being able to have my own space, not clean up anyone else’s mess (apart from my toddler’s of course!) and I keep the house how I want it! My relationship with my daughter is better for it too, we are so close and I wouldn’t change a thing! Us single mum’s have each other and our kids – we are pretty much sorted!! 🙂 #weekendbloghop
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  4. teacuptoria
    January 25, 2015 at 7:07 pm (2 years ago)

    Hi Jeanette, I can totally relate. to this! I was a single parent for a long time however I’m not just about to move in with my partner and hopefully create a little step family. I am extremely happy but terrified too and a big part of me is soooo reluctant to give up my independence and ALL of the benefits you highlight above. Even though I I sometimes felt sad being on my own most of the time I felt very lucky and made the most of it as you seem to. I look forward to reading more from you. Tor x
    (PS I don’t know how you find the time to do everything you do!)
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  5. SArah Christie
    January 23, 2015 at 4:29 pm (2 years ago)

    Great post, its fab to see how amazing you are and have embraced singledom. Although I am married it has always struck me that some of my single friends are desperate to be attached. Rather than being happy in their own skin, with their own rules.
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  6. Abi
    January 22, 2015 at 10:02 pm (2 years ago)

    This is brilliant!

  7. Jess
    January 22, 2015 at 6:37 am (2 years ago)

    All hail singledom!! I wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂 im not anti-men but I love my life for all these reasons and more and am very happy to stay single forever!! It’s much safer that way!! Thanks for a great article 🙂 wish I had some single mum friends.

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