Having been in a relationship for twenty years – my whole adult life – it felt a little strange to be single at first. But nearly two years since our separation, I am incredibly happy to be single so I have written a short list of the best things about being single. That’s not to say that being single is better than being married – obviously there are good and bad bits of both – but this is my list of why I’m happily single:
Shopping – I’m in charge of the food shopping which means that I don’t to have think about what he might like for dinner each day; I can have what I like, when I like.
The Bed – no having to share it with a snorer who uses more than his fair share. It is all mine and I can choose what side to sleep on and change every night if I want to. Or just sleep in the middle of the bed and have lots of space.
Bedroom Activities – being able to do whatever I like in bed without any complaints. Read until late with the light on. Eat chocolate biscuits. Sing to the radio. Have a dance. Whatever takes my fancy.
Cleaning – no more cleaning stubble out of the sink (or even worse – the bath tub) or urine splashes behind the toilet. Less time cleaning leaves more time for fun activities.
Children – having a better relationship with my children since becoming a single mum, probably because I am more relaxed and happier.
Christmas – no more having to think of Christmas presents for his family, wrap them or buy them. More time and money for my family.
Television – being able to watch the programmes and films that I enjoy without anyone complaining or talking throughout it.
Friends – chatting to friends on the phone in the lounge rather than having to go to another room for some privacy.
Peace – once the children are all in bed, the peace and quiet is amazing and very therapeutic. Something that wasn’t possible when living with someone else.
Money – total control of the budget with no surprises when I check the bank balance and realise that there’s not as much in there as I thought. Now I know exactly what is there and how much I can spend each month on me and the kids.
Haircuts – choosing what hairstyle I like rather than wondering if he will like it. I can also spend more than £10 on a haircut without listening to a rant about how much of a rip off women’s haircuts are.
Shaving – not caring if I haven’t shaved my legs for a few days (or weeks), especially in the Winter as nobody will see them under trousers.
Wardrobe – having the full wardrobe for all my clothes. With so much space, I may need a few more outfits.
Toiletries – a bathroom full of only pink, girly, smelly, lush stuff in the bathroom.
Holidays – being able to book a holiday where I like and when I like without needing to check his views or his work shifts.