Taking a step back and breathing

I haven’t written a blog post for a few weeks and for the first time, my excuse is not that I have been too busy.

For the last 6 weeks, I have reduced my employed days to just once a fortnight.  Yes, I know that’s hardly anything and just typing that makes me feel lazy.  So what have I been doing instead?

12112143_10153354043652982_2951767720466504696_nWell, I have started teaching Daisy Baby classes, which takes half a day a week plus half a day admin, marketing etc.  I am still teaching my Daisy Birthing classes one evening too.

I have also started running the Mums in the Know Telford website along with the Facebook and Twitter accounts, so this has taken up some time in my week.

That’s my work – mostly self-employed and taking up less time a week than when I was teaching.  So what else have I been filling up my time doing?

I have been recharging, refocusing and refreshing myself.  Taking a step back and breathing.

Those who know me well, will know that I’m a bit of a workaholic so slowing down hasn’t been easy.  But, it has been necessary.

Part of the reason that I so dramatically cut down my employed hours was because I was becoming so stressed and tired.  Having gone back to work when Alex was days old (even if it was just marketing and promoting my self-employed work), which was weeks after I became a single mum, it was starting to catch up on me.  Over those two and a half years, I had never worked less than 3 jobs – some employed and some self-employed – while trying to take care of 6 children.  Add into that a divorce, a house sale and moving the family 200 miles, I guess it was no wonder that I was worn out.

pillow-650243__180So while I have felt a bit lazy over the last few weeks, I have slowed down.  Not stopped but taken a step back to re-evaluate what I am doing and where I am going.

I haven’t worked every evening, which has felt very strange.  So instead of picking up the laptop as soon as the little ones were tucked up in bed, I have spent at least two evenings a week relaxing with my older daughters.  I must admit that it has been a bit difficult not to work every evening as I always have this voice that says that I have things that I should be doing instead of chilling out, but I also feel better for taking breaks, even if I am not being as productive.

dancing shoesI have even had a bit of me time.  I have been working towards my Silver Ballroom and Latin dance exam, which I took yesterday.  I have had coffees out with my mum during the week.  I have even managed to have a massage treatment.  I did feel a little guilty about spending time and money on myself but it has also felt amazing.

I am now at a point where I am beginning to feel that I know what I want to do and have a vision of this.  I know that I will have to put in the work to get there but I also hope to be able to balance it better so that I am not as stressed and exhausted as I have been in the past.

Sometimes, taking a step back and breathing is the most important thing you can do.


13 Comments on Taking a step back and breathing

  1. Mary @ Vivabop
    October 28, 2015 at 12:09 pm (3 years ago)

    Glad you have enjoyed your time and really impressed with you taking your ballroom and latin dance exam! Please do not feel guilty about taking some time for yourself – you deserve that. If it helps, I have learned that sometimes I need to put myself first so that I can then give my best to others – a stressed out, burned out version of me is not as beneficial as a a relaxed, ready for anything that comes my way version! 🙂

  2. Michelle
    October 25, 2015 at 9:24 pm (3 years ago)

    sometimes it is so important to take a step back and relax. whether its from blogging, work or just life.
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  3. Ickle Pickle
    October 24, 2015 at 5:09 pm (3 years ago)

    It is so important to take a step back – although it sounds like you have been super busy! I can’t imagine not blogging for a few days let alone weeks! Kaz x
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  4. Sarah
    October 24, 2015 at 12:31 pm (3 years ago)

    Sometimes taking a step back is the best thing to do! I’m glad you took a break and a step back from working so much, especially if you’re feeling stressed and tired. You deserve a rest! Well done on the Ballroom and Latin dance exam! That’s amazing! And also, you shouldn’t feel bad about spending money on yourself! You have worked hard for it. 🙂 xx
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  5. Becky, Cuddle Fairy
    October 24, 2015 at 10:25 am (3 years ago)

    Oh my goodness, you have so much on your plate right now! Taking a step back & breathing is so important. Initially, it’s hard to do but it’s really great for your state of mind. Lovely to have you back though x
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  6. Mudpie Fridays
    October 24, 2015 at 6:35 am (3 years ago)

    Its great that you have managed to take some time out to figure out what you want to do. With so much going on I think you deserve time to spend on yourself. Good luck with the exam result 🙂 xx
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  7. Aly
    October 23, 2015 at 10:23 pm (3 years ago)

    Oh yes, defo need to slow down and step back from the internet every now and now.I try and keep focused so I’m only online for a short time, I’ve use a timer now.It’s good to enjoy the moment and assess the areas of your life that have been lapsing in attention.
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  8. Marina Richardson
    October 23, 2015 at 12:29 pm (3 years ago)

    Wow, with everything you have going on it seems like you need a well deserved break and rest, enjoy your free time and please don’t worry about what you should be doing. Life is full of routine and although it may be hard to forget for now, I’m sure you’ll be thankful to yourself in the long run! Enjoy and happiness x
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  9. Jade Priscilla
    October 23, 2015 at 9:56 am (3 years ago)

    As I work full time, I know exactly how it feels to be on the laptop after little ones bedtime, typing away into the early hours of the morning. I am so jealous that you now have your evenings free-Enjoy it, you deserve it and I hope your exam went well! 🙂 x

  10. Gareth Mear
    October 23, 2015 at 8:33 am (3 years ago)

    Great article, everyone needs rest time, work can drag on and sometimes a nice relaxing break can do the world of good and make you more motivated when you’re refreshed 🙂
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  11. Jade Lewendon
    October 23, 2015 at 8:29 am (3 years ago)

    Sometimes we need to remember that we’re only human, and we need to take time off from our busy schedules sometimes! It’s nice to see you’re doing new classes, but also nice to see you’re not picking up the laptop every evening, but instead spending time with your older daughters, enjoying cups of tea with your mum and other relaxing things! Enjoy the peace lovely and don’t be too hard on yourself! Moving not even a mile down the road was stressful enough to me, and I’m a single mum to just one child! How you moved 200 miles and went through a divorce too, I admire you! xx
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  12. Alex
    October 23, 2015 at 7:17 am (3 years ago)

    This is a great post. You’re right, sometimes we just need breathing space to reveal hate what we want. Last week I was made redundant without notice. I’m now a stay at home mum instead of working 3 days a week, plus blogging. It’s given me time to decide what I want to do with my life and I actually appreciate this new change. Good luck with everything you’re doing xx
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  13. aloted
    October 19, 2015 at 10:51 am (3 years ago)

    Enjoyed reading this. It is important to take time off for ourselves especially when we find we are tired and cranky.

    well done mama!

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