It’s Valentine’s Day in less than a week!
My first Valentine’s Day after divorce and what would have been my 20th Wedding Anniversary.
Yes, I got married on Valentine’s Day. A lovely romantic idea – a wedding on February 14th. Until you get divorced, then it is a little less pleasant when you see red roses and hearts everywhere reminding you of not just one but two special dates.
This Valentine’s Day, as my 20th Wedding Anniversary, should have been a big celebration. Maybe we would have gone out for a meal or to the theatre. Maybe we would have taken some time out to go for a romantic walk and stopped at a pub for lunch. We would have certainly given each other gifts – one for our anniversary and one for Valentine’s Day – and maybe they would have been a little more than usual with the special anniversary.
However, I won’t be receiving any cards or gifts this year (for obvious reasons) so I am considering doing something else, just for me.
Instead of feeling down about the whole Valentine’s Day and Wedding Anniversary combo, I am thinking of buying myself something. (I hope that doesn’t sound pathetic.)
For previous wedding anniversaries, I have bought my now ex-husband a couple of cards and gifts. It has usually taken a lot of time trying to think what he would really appreciate, going out and buying it, wrapping it etc. Giving a Valentine’s Day/Wedding Anniversary is meant to be all about the other person to show them how much you love them.
Well, this year, instead of thinking about him, I can think about the positives of being single, how far I have come since our split and be selfish by getting myself a little treat to mark this.
So what should I buy myself? I have drawn up a shortlist but I am open to other ideas – in fact, please do send me ideas as Valentine’s Day is getting close and my shortlist is a bit on the short side!
1. A Ring – I am still touching my wedding ring finger and, for a split second or two, I wonder where my ring is until it dawns on me again. I would have thought that this would have stopped by now but it hasn’t. So I am wondering whether I should get a replacement for that finger but I need to make it look nothing like an engagement ring, which is my concern about this idea. I love this Trollbeads ring but there aren’t any retailers near me. However, it is a ring of sorts is a possibility.
2. A Painting – I have always loved a painting in one of my friends houses which was painted by her father-in-law, Roger Hann. I love the sun peeking through the clouds suggesting hope and the beach scene.
3. A Sling – I sold a few slings before moving to raise funds but have been peeping at some of the facebook slings-for-sale pages and would love another one to try before Alex gets too old to be carried in a sling. The obvious downside to this present to myself is that it has a short lifespan of use (unless I have another baby in the future!) but there are such gorgeous prints out there.
4. Anyone got any other ideas? I would love to hear them
So as a fairly new divorced woman on Valentine’s Day, I say to all other single people, love yourself, treat yourself and be a little selfish. You deserve it!